I’ve had great successes at work lately. The rest of life… I’m not having successes in.
I’m starting to realize I’m a one trick princess pony. I can only excel in one area of my life, while I let all other areas dwindle.
I’m also starting to realize that I blame others for my lack of excel-lence in other areas of my life before I finally turn the pointy finger back at myself.
I don’t know why I thought life would magically be easier now that I live in NYC with the man of my dreams, but I’m starting to catch on that all relationships are hard work. And at least this time around I do my Crazy Lady Talk for five minutes then I realize I’m doing it and I talk through the apology of it.
Something that Hilly wrote disturbed me greatly, so much so that I wouldn’t even allow myself to think about it. Do you want to know what that is? It’s all those little things you get done over time when you live somewhere for a lifetime that you have to redo in a very complicated manner when you move to another state. It would actually be easier if: I had never been to the doctor; I had never been to the dentist; I didn’t own a car, ever, period OR I didn’t own a car YET that had to be transferred to NY; I didn’t have a drivers license; I didn’t have an expired passport; I didn’t have a car registration in my ex-husband’s name for a car that is legally in my possession; I’d never taken the girls to a vet; I’d never had my hair done; I’d never realized that grooming “down there” was such a great idea; I had no worldy possessions during my entire life in Vermont.
Because the result of all this is: I need to transfer medical records to a new doctor, after I find one; I need to transfer records to a new dentist, after I find one; I need to jump through a fuckton of hoops to get this car registered in my name without contacting my ex and having him show up to the DMV with me (that IS NEVER going to happen) which in turn means I have to store my car in Dawg’s parents’ garage since its inspection was due in April and the cops ticket parked cars that have expired inspection stickers; I cannot obtain my drivers license until I know I am not flying anywhere for a month because the temporary NY license without a photo that is given while you wait the 2-4 weeks for your photo ID in the mail will not suffice to the surrendered Vermont license with photo; getting a new passport just fucking sucks, dude; I have to get the vet records from two different vets before I can bring the girls for their annual physicals and shots, and I don’t even trust any vet establishments I’ve seen around here, much less have the gumption to get all three cats in the car to take them to said vet appointment; I haven’t had a haircut since July 2008 because I don’t have a stylist here; it’s very hard to maintain a beautifully sexy and nice-feeling look in the region of which I spoke and going to have it professionally cared for seems like an extreme hassle; I am still paying $135 per month for a 10 ft by 25 ft storage unit in Vermont that is housing probably 8 ft by 8 ft of stuff left over from the move that really should be thrown out but it’s too much work to think about how to get rid of it.
Point?
Point.
I love the subway. I love the city. I love my man, tremendously (more, times infinity plus one plus 12 times infinity).
The good outweighs the hard.
I think that the hardest thing here, perhaps, is you. On yourself.
I, for one, can’t even imagine how to excel in one area.. Maybe the trick is to settle for solid mediocry in some ?
I agree with Creature, because I do this to myself all the time. Start with your license so at least you have a New York State photo ID and you can eventually get your passport renewed. Everything else will fall into place eventually….I promise. Besides, you have Dawg. When all else fails, cuddle him to feel better.
As you know, I know.
The trick for me has been tasking myself with one item at a time and maybe, just mayyyybe everything will get done. It’s just going to be a learning curve like everything else in life and we should cut ourselves some slack.
So happy you have Dawg.
Everything will happen over time.
In regards to the vet… when I lived in NY (up until last year) we took all of our pets to Lefferts Animal Hospital, this is going back 20 or so years… I was last there early last year to have my cat neutered and get his shots….Dr. Halpern is one of the best in my book. When we couldn’t get in there and it was an emergency we went to Howard Beach Animal Clinic…also a place I trusted with my babies. For a great dentist look up James Grosso in Ozone Park, and for some awesome doctors look into the Martin Gold HIP Center on Kissena Blvd (they take all types of insurance now)…Francisco Torres was my PCP for 12 years he is one of those types of docs that’ll go the extra mile for you. Hope this helps.
Aww, Poppy, I’m so sorry you’re carrying so much on your shoulders right now. Life can just be so overwhelmingly hard sometimes. I am sending you all the love and good, positive, strengthy vibes your way that I can.
And yeah…you’ve got a lot of good going on, too. Which you totally deserve.
I said this already on my blog to you but I’ll say it again here…Happy Mother’s Day to you (because kitties are people too!) *BIG HUGS*
You need a personal assistant. So do I, now that I think about it.
I’m feeling overwhelmed, too. Maybe we can panic together sometime.
Hope it gets better.
J.
We have been working to help each other wit these kinds of things–it’s the first time I’ve felt I could really trust someone enough to let them see I need their help. It’s such a freeing feeling.
As long as the good outweighs the bad… you’re on the right track.
Make sure you get your hair done the day you get your new license so your cats don’t play in it that morning when you drive in that car and you can smile REAL BIG because your teeth are nice and white and clean, and besides, you’re trimmed in more than one place and that makes you smile even bigger.
Deep breath and one thing at a time. Do you know Daryl Onthem104? She lives in manhattan and had kitties and has lived there forever, she maybe able to help you find a vet and maybe a good doc, dentist, etc when you get there.
It’s a good thing to have to do these things, it just takes time and don’t stress yourself out.