2009: Now with 20% more intentional faux pas!

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Sometimes I really love the words that spring from my fingers. This is one of those sometimes.

My 2008 was pretty fucking fantastic. I did a lot of great things that started with me finally taking some control over my life and making decisions based on where I wanted to be rather than where life was taking me. Funny how 2008 was pretty fucking sucky for most of the rest of you. Maybe you gave me your good stuff? Thanks for that!

snail-cozy-thumb I did make one resolution for 2009. I don’t really make resolutions, don’t believe in them, but I’m pretty sure I can keep this one:

I resolve to be 20% more disappointing to people.

Came up with that one in bed sometime during the night between eve of eve and New Year’s Eve and I’m quite proud of it.

I’ve come to the conclusion that, no matter how hard I try to please people, there are a lot of people out in the world who prefer to be disappointed. So, I’m going to give them what they want, in the meantime stopping my habit of giving too much of myself to people who don’t deserve it, and just up front disappoint them. No more game of me trying my hardest to do what it is you maybe want, failing in your eyes, and being hurt by your disappointment.

I already lived that life back in Vermont. I already played that game. I’m not into games. I refuse to be a part of the game anymore. Call me when you’re ready to opt out of the game too or else enjoy my disappointment and shut the fuck up about it.

:smiles:

I intend to do this both in my professional and personal life. I will never do it in such a way that it makes me compromise my moral compass or sense of self or is specifically vindictive. I do expect, though, that this will allow me to feel comfortable in saying what is on my mind more often rather than being frustrated about the tug-of-war between saying what’s on my mind and hurting your feelings if I say it. And in the end maybe I will find that I disappoint people a lot more than the 20% extra I was hoping for, or maybe, just maybe, it will avoid disappointment altogether.

Snail cozy photo borrowed from craftastrophe.net. I am against snail cozies. I am for craftastrophes.

16 thoughts on “2009: Now with 20% more intentional faux pas!”

  2. I hear you.

    You will get very strong reactions in response, but it’s so freeing to finally do what you want.

  3. Well, you didn’t begin with your Resolution because this particular post is 20% MORE than I could have hoped for! I LOVE IT! You should write a book with this post as its title…

    Seriously!

  5. hmm, that’s a good one. 20% more disappointing to people will probably mean more than 20% more pleasing to the people you care about (including yourself)

  7. I am pro craftastrophe AND snail cozy, and I would like a pet snail so I might name him Escargot.

    There, that sentence should easily make you 20% more disappointed in me. ;)

  8. Creature, I very much agree.

    Robin, day one has been a struggle. Apparently 1/1/09 was a free pass.

    Sharon, that is an interesting idea… I am not sure yet if my total life experiences yet warrant a book.

    Dawg, when’s the last time we played Scrabble? August, I think! I :pinkpuffyheart: you and your grumpy ass, too.

    Wah, I sure as hell hope so.

    Big Brother, considering the last time I didn’t show up was because of a national snowstorm I think I won’t jinx it by saying I am coming up in January, lest an asteroid take out all of North America. (But I am going to try my very hardest.)

    Melissa, I am only anti-snail cozy because I think it’s cruelty to snails. Snails are adorable.

  11. Depsite losing my job and leaving my husband, I don’t really think of 2008 as being that bad a year.

    2005 sucked a lot more for me.

  14. Lynda, it’s all about perspective.

    DB, thank you. :smiles:

    BB, I’ve upped the percentage to 100% 3 times today. Dawg suggested I up it to 200%. I said “that’s not possible,” thus sustaining my 100% disappointing ratio for the day! w00t!

  15. Man. I wish I had thought of that one. I’m so disappointed that you came up with it first. (See what I did there? You’re already disappointing people…well, technically, you didn’t disappoint me, just sort of inspired disappointment, but I think that should count.)