Last night I had video Skype time with Break Boy, His Lovely Wife, and their two kids EZA and LLA. You might possibly have some sort of idea, but let me just pretend you don’t by saying: YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW GOOD IT WAS TO SEE THEM. I miss them all. A lot. Ow. Ok, anyway, I won’t be seeing them in person until Dawg and I go to Vermont for my friends’ yearly Christmas party, so until then the skyping has to do. But really, it’s very convenient.
The lovely and talented Ms. Karen Sugarpants just shared this on twitter and I now need to share it with you:
http://view.break.com/592648 – Watch more free videos
*tap tap*
And, to steal the thunder of several people who have been mulling this over lately: Someone who was mean to you in school friend requests you on a social networking site. What do you do?
Poppy’s opinion: Ignore. Although, funny thing is, sometimes people do change and letting them back into your life helps you change for the better too. My example is PiC. He reads my blog now so I won’t embarrass him by relaying specific events that transpired between him and me at a poker game 12 years ago when we didn’t really know each other, but consider it sufficient knowledge that I wanted to hurt him badly. NAT (who you may have seen in comments here and there, and who has been my friend since the age of 13) took PiC outside and straightened him out using only words. 
I hated PiC for a really long time, and it was a BAD defining moment of my life. I gave PiC another chance when he applied to work at my last job and I never regretted it for a day. He is an awesome person and anyone would be lucky to have him as a friend. Plus he has a cute kid and a cute cat and a mad cool wife who increases his coolness by about 150% on any given day. (Yes, I did have to throw that in there.) That BAD defining moment is still a defining moment, but now it’s GOOD. The reason it’s good is because PiC and I both changed as people and let the past go. But the only reason I gave him another chance is because he was going to be sitting in the same office with me, sharing a major responsibility — my Partner in Crime. So, it was either get along or have really shitty days at work.
October 25th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
I heard a story about Michael Phelps that is similar… he ran into some guy to tortured him in junior high for being awkward… naturally the guy wanted to make the school connection… Michael pretended that he didn’t remember him.
October 25th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
Yeah – I figure, they’ve probably grown up at least a little, so what’s the point in harboring bad feelings? I generally tend to let bygones be bygones. If they still suck, then you can always block them. :)
October 25th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
I’d probably ignore them. To be honest, I don’t add many people from school to my FB or Myspace. If I wanted to keep in touch with them, I would’ve!
October 25th, 2008 at 5:15 pm
Funny, a very good friend of mine had the same situation where a person from middle school friended her and she was hesitant to accept. She first sent a brief message to her before she accepted/denied and the girl just outright apologized for treating her the way she did way back when. She actually said it had bothered her quite a bit through the years and she had hoped to one day apologize. (This girl tormented my friend really bad in middle school). So, she accepted and they actually met for a drink (with others as well) and she apologized again and is a completely different person. It restored my faith in the world just a wee bit. People actually do grow up. Not all, but there are those that do.
October 25th, 2008 at 6:46 pm
I’ve added people who I was mean to when I was in high school or middle school, and it’s nice to be able to talk to them as adults so that we can both realize that I’m clearly not the same that I was when I was 12.
October 25th, 2008 at 7:12 pm
eric and i just watched the video. i think he liked it too.
October 25th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
Hmmmm. Your wisdom and strength of character is commendable. I tend to let people have another chance… but people who have been mean to my children? Another story. I don’t harbor real grudges, and I never seek revenge (karma takes care of all that shit quite nicely, thank you), but I tread VERY cautiously where hurt has grabbed the spirits of my kids. But I have seen them let go of past crap… and I can only be amazed by that…
Very intriguing question.
October 25th, 2008 at 9:53 pm
I agree with you. I do hold grudges, so unless they’re adding me with a ‘sorry I was a total ass to you in xxx school’ then really, I don’t want them to be talking to me.
Or as I would like to write back:
DIE DIE DIE DIE DIE
/ok, maybe I hold a little *too* much grudge…
October 25th, 2008 at 10:16 pm
that video made the strangest santa claus laugh escape from far, far down inside of me. such a deep and hearty laugh that i scared both dogs. loved the video…thanks for posting.
i really don’t get the whole facebook thing, but i just don’t get caring about the past via a simple web site. not like folks are asking you to do dinner or to go clubbing or something. it is almost like if you say ignore or no to the “friends” label that you become the bitch, the bitter person. kids are stupid and most change drastically by the time they hit 30.
sorry about the novel. thanks again for that silly video.
October 25th, 2008 at 11:29 pm
Sourpuss’s opinion: Ignore.
October 26th, 2008 at 2:29 am
I love good dancing and I love good photoshopping (or the video equivalent) even more!
October 26th, 2008 at 10:34 am
See – that has happened to me too…I will fully admit I was a HUGE nerd/geek/weirdo in high school. If it wasn’t for my older cousins and family members before me, I probably would have gotten pounded on a regular basis. Now, I realize that being friends with the most hated girl in school didn’t help my “status.” Heh. But anyway, when it happened to me, I tried to be the bigger person and accepted them, and then it turns out that they were even a bigger douche than they were in high school – they took every opportunity to break me down because I managed to be doing better than I was back then…and looked better too. I promptly told this person to scratch my ass and deleted them. Now if I get the request, I delete them. I don’t miss high school because real life isn’t much different, to be honest. I can say that my past experiences made me so much more compassionate now and way more accepting.
I will stop rambling now.
October 26th, 2008 at 7:57 pm
I think the video is a hoot.
October 27th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
I’ve accepted friendhips on myspace from old high school friends/nemessis (sp?) and they just add me then never comment me which leads me to believe they just wanted to check out my page, who I’m friends with, my pictures, etc. So I don’t accept anymore, and I deleted all the ones that never comment me.
October 27th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
WOW!!! I mispelled at least two words. And my sentence sounds like my 8 year old wrote. EEEEK. Can I blame it on not enough coffee after a weekend of nonstop partying from Friday at noon till last night? Ok. Thank you.