Poppy Cedes

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1. Mike Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 12:29 am

   Woah.

2. Iron Fist Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 3:12 am

   I’m totally the same way — spanking doesn’t work, and I prefer that someone let me know that I’ve done something wrong by saying “Congratulations!” and then handing me an enormous slice of chocolate cake. I think the world would be a better place if everyone started this practice IMMEDIATELY.

3. Mattie Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 5:56 am

   My mother never spanked me. She beat the hell out of me instead.

   She would hit and punch me down to the ground. And she always seemed to know where not to hit me so that bruises would show. It wasn’t about anything specific it was just whenever the mood struck her. I have a scar on my face from having her dig her fingernails into my face because she hated me so much.

   I have another scar on my face from when she threw a glass of milk at me.

   I have forgiven her simply because she was an alcoholic with 7 kids and no money and I just happened to be handy.

   I hate her so much for how she treated me. But I have forgiven her and tried to get to know her on a totally different level.

   So far, it’s working. Somewhat. She can’t beat me because I’m too much of a adult. Adiitionally, I try to always make her feel loved It’s not easy, but I had to break the cycle so that when my daughter grows up I will be the polar opposite of my mother.

   Thanks for sharing. I can see it[‘s too painful yet.

4. missbritt Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 6:30 am

   You look beautiful in this video. Not the point, I know. But worth mentioning.

   It’s weird to me that you were only spanked twice and you vividly remember each time. Very, very different from my childhood.

5. Creature SH Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 7:41 am

   Hm, I think you brought up a good point without actively doing so… Some parents chose to spank so the child learns the lesson and won’t forget it. But look what happens – The reasons end up forgotten while the punishment keeps standing out. That says a lot.

6. Avitable Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 8:36 am

   Yeah, I got spanked plenty. Totally deserved them, too.

   So where’s the video talking about all the voluntary spanking that goes on in your adulthood? :devil:

7. Poppy Cede Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 8:45 am

   Mikey, well, I guess that you technically followed the “should” rule. I have no idea what’s behind your “woah” though. Care to elaborate?

   Mr. Fisty, I totally agree. Chocolate cake is definitely a suitable punishment.

   And, I promise I’m not being all hippie here, but I really do think children understand right and wrong better if words are used. If physical punishment is used it really just teaches kids to hate and/or fear their parents, and to try to get away with stuff. If you sit down and explain the reasoning behind your disapproval of their action then they can incorporate that reasoning into their … um, moral compass? Ya know.

   Mattie, clearly your mom shouldn’t have had kids… but I’m glad she had you.

   Britt, thanks for the compliment. If I had been spanked way more I wouldn’t have been able to have this philosophy about it… I would have just accepted it. I did try to be a really good kid, though. Like, way too hard.

   Avi, I don’t think you deserved to be spanked by your parents. And I’m not even going to acknowledge the second part of your conversation.

8. Avitable Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 8:49 am

   Oh, no, I totally deserved it. By my parents. And my teacher. And my principal.

9. Mike Says:
   June 26th, 2008 at 11:18 am

   Not sure if I’m ready to align ideas in a decent enough manner to make sense on this topic. That’s why I went with the “Keanu”.

   Let’s just say I never skip a day hugging my kids and telling them I love them.

10. Chicka Nuts Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 12:02 pm

    I’m with Avi. Whatever spankings I got, I totally deserved. What I didn’t deserve was to go out back and get a switch from the weeping willow tree for another [kind of] punishment. Back then, it was called discipline and not abuse. And to add another point, that same tree that was a “tool of punishment” also brought me many days of shady, lazy reading under it’s beautiful wisps. I never once saw it as “that evil tree that deserves to be burned down.” I knew that if I stepped out of line and disrespected my parents that it was coming. Thus, I knew not to disrespect.

    Having said that, I prefer not to spank, but there are times where I’ve had to. Talking doesn’t save your life. Some children with “challenges” you can’t reason with. That’s life. Taking things and privileges away doesn’t make an impact and the lesson doesn’t stick. And a spanking never killed a child. (I’m talking spanking, which I see as one swat hard enough to get attention, and not beating.) Many years ago I may have felt differently, but guess what – I have one of those children. Children and adults just don’t “reason” the same way.

    We’ll have to agree to disagree. Times are different now. My kids know they’re loved, but they also know that if they purposely make poor choices, they get the punishments.

    I remember my mother busting my brother’s rear end with a yardstick (thin of course) and broke it in half. He had it coming. Seriously. Hellion that kid was.

    And da kitteh…high-larious…

11. Finn Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 12:33 pm

    I’m not a big fan of spanking — it just makes everyone feel bad. Although I do think there can be times when you really need to get a kid’s attention about something — like running into the street — where I can understand doing it.

    I can only remember being spanked twice too. And it was completely humilating.

12. Sybil Law Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    My daughter is too old now to be spanked, and the few times I tried when she was younger to do it, she didn’t get it – she thought it was funny and a game. (Clearly, I was not doing it hard enough! Haha) My parents spanked me when I was young, very young, but not past the age of… well, maybe 5, or 6. Like I’ve done with Gilda. Words work now, but words and a light spank work wonders when your kid is very young (like, 2), and fascinated with plugging and unplugging things!
    I think spanking past a certain age is very demoralizing and humiliating. Certainly the actual act itself (if it’s just a spanking and not a beat-down) isn’t harmful. The physical part is almost “eh”, but the emotional/ mental part, as you’ve demonstrated, can be hurtful.

13. Dragon Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 2:13 pm

    I don’t think I ever want to see the Poppy Death Glare. I don’t believe in spanking children. I think it’s lazy parenting.
    And yes, I was spanked as a child and all it taught me was fear, not respect.

14. Charlene in Arkansas Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 2:54 pm

    wow~~poppe that was really way to hmmmm touching!!

    i tried way too hard to be good when i was a child also

    i got spanked when i was in the 2nd grade by my teacher for getting out of line….brenda myers pushed me out of line and i got spanked..it fucking sucked

    when i was in the 3rd grade, i wanted to take my teacher some flowers from my grandpa’s garden, he said no (the only time i ever remember him saying no), i went around the house and picked some flowers anyway, he came out the front door and asked me what i was doing, i hid the flowers behind my back and said nothing~ he asked me what i had behind my back and i said nothing~ he spanked me for lying~ i don’t think i ever lied to my grandpa again~ it crushed me, not because he spanked me, but because i got caught lying to him, he was my hero

    i got spanked by my father for climbing on the cabinet to get something out of the upper cabinet that i had been told i couldn’t have and knocked off a big glass vase that had change in it
    i don’t recall getting spanked in my childhood any other times

    that was a very ~touching~ video
    it gave me goosebumps

15. Charlene in Arkansas Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 3:08 pm

    sorry poppy for poppe woooppss ~~~~can i blame it on my new bifocals

16. sourpuss Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 8:59 pm

    I got spanked as a kid. It started with hand-spanking, moved to whup’ns with the leather beltstrap, then graduated to the wooden spoon.

    I can’t recall exactly how old I was when it stopped but I remember the moment quite clearly. I steeled myself, took it, and refused to cry. I just stared at the perpetrator. The spoon finally broke and I walked away. I never got spanked again.

    Maybe that’s where my high threshold for pain originated.

17. BlondeBlogger Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 10:57 pm

    I agree with Britt…you are so beautiful! And I love your voice too.

    Out of respect for my mom, whom I love and adore now, I won’t get into my childhood (not that she’d ever see this, but still).

    As for my beliefs about spanking, I believe it depends on the child. You and I being the sensitive types…I don’t think it works for us and I think it’s cruel in our cases.

    My youngest two are that way. I can talk and reason with them and they are so well-behaved.

    My oldest will totally tell you that she was a handful growing up. The strong-willed, independent child that scoffed at time-outs and groundings.

    Even then, we only used spankings in the most serious of times, and she herself is fine with it and agrees with it now that she’s grown.

    But again, I believe it depends on the child and the circumstances. Also on how it’s done.

    I’m sorry you were treated like that and I can totally empathize (but again…NOT going there for myself).

18. Stephanie Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 10:58 pm

    I was spanked. A lot. Sometimes i deserved to be disciplined…sometimes I was the only thing that one of them could hit, so that they didn’t kill each other.

    I have lots of scars. Visually, and hidden. One of the reasons I won’t have kids of my own. Fear, I guess.

19. Stephanie Says:
    June 26th, 2008 at 10:58 pm

    Okay, sorry for that downer of a comment. In other news…you do look pretty in that video!

20. yoshi Says:
    June 27th, 2008 at 12:41 pm

    ok loved the cowboy hat. That’s pretty funny. I think I saw that sometime before, perhaps another episode of it. Pretty funny stuff though. :D

    I’ve been spanked, but at least I knew why, and I know I deserved them all I’m sure. I was a pretty rebellious kid.

    still laughing at the cat though.

21. sarkasmo Says:
    June 27th, 2008 at 1:59 pm

    I got spanked a lot, I think. I don’t remember the reason for ANY of the spankings. Not that I was abused or anything. I’m pretty sure I deserved them, but I doubt I learned my lesson.

    My sister never got spanked, though. She got her hand slapped a couple of times for talking back, but she is clearly a better person than I am.

22. Maman Says:
    June 27th, 2008 at 2:39 pm

    I think I prefer the Burt eyes…

23. whall Says:
    July 1st, 2008 at 2:40 am

    Heavy emotional topic. It’s hard to discuss without offending or creating enemies, simply on a difference of opinion. What one person finds acceptable, the next might find abhorrent.

    I mean, MASKS on KITTIES!?!? I cannot believe you’re posting that crap.

    Now, onto spanking…

24. NYCWD Says:
    July 1st, 2008 at 8:30 am

    I used to get whipped by a switch.

    Across the palms.

    Then forced to eat salty popcorn which got salt into the wounds.

25. Miss Ann Thrope Says:
    July 3rd, 2008 at 6:04 pm

    I can pretty much echo Mattie and simply say my mother has borderline personality disorder. She had a problem with flying into a rage for no apparant reason.

    Unlike Mattie, I do have physical scars…mostly on my arms. Her weapons of choice were extension cords and curtain rods.

    I know this is the nastiest shit to say but…as i watched this and saw that you seemed like you might cry and how hurt your were by being spanked, I was pretty much incredulous.

    I’ve learned by talking to people that a lot of 20-somethings seem to think getting a smack is abuse. I want to smack them. Seriously.

26. Poppy Cede Says:
    July 3rd, 2008 at 6:15 pm

    Thanks to everyone who took the time to tell their story here.

    Miss Ann, I wasn’t about to cry in the video, I was frustrated at how to express myself. I don’t have a script in front of me when I do my videos, I just wing them, but I know how uncomfortable it makes people around me when I take long pauses, so I was trying to quickly wrap up my thought process in my head and get it out my mouth. There’s nothing painful to me about my spanking memories. I’m sorry that your experience wasn’t as painless as my own. And I do understand that other people think everything mentioned above is “deserved” but for me personally I am not receptive to physical response to my actions. It’s not what makes me understand the consequence of something. A physical response directed at me makes me go into defensive mode and fight back, no thinking involved.

27. Cats Love Hats Says:
    February 27th, 2009 at 5:31 am

    Loving the cat video!

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