Britt, I think people are giving interesting advice on this post. And now I’m gonna get all tough and say TAKE BACK YOUR BLOG. I’ve had days to mull it over and it annoys the fucking shit out of me that my blog would not be my blog to do with as I please anymore. That said, still doesn’t mean I’m gonna spill other people’s business without some form of permission.

Ahem. Anyway.

Yes, I do think to a certain extent when the people who read your blog start to be made up of REAL people to you, it changes it a little bit.

I’m a pretty open person online or off, so for the MOST part it’s not a big deal. But there are times when I want to say things on MY blog that I don’t… because I stop and think about how it will affect some of the people who read it.

In that way, it kind of stops becoming MY blog and becomes something WE share.

You know?

I’m older and A LOT more cynical than you are. I just really wouldn’t want to deal with the fall out. I have 4 words for it. Un Comf Ort Able.

The problem about blogging is the good thing about blogging. People knowing your shit when you seriously wish you could take back that you ever mentioned something in the first place. I know a couple of people who have that wish.

If I need to talk, I have phone numbers. I don’t think not blogging after a tragic circumstance would change that I do have people. I just don’t have it on a blog.

Can’t live life in fear. Or, rather, I refuse to anymore.

And, for the record, we’ll cross the bridge if it ever comes to it, but for me there is no bridge.

I pulled back while going through my life changing event, but I found I really needed support and wasn’t getting enough of it offline. A number of bloggers helped get me through that time, and I am very thankful to each of them.

Regarding the ex, the details are never going to be for public consumption. No matter what I think of him, whether I think he’s great or think he’s horrible, he didn’t ask to be put in my limelight and I will respect his wishes to not be mentioned here ever again.

If I was you or Dawgg or both (kinky), I wouldn’t have blogged about my relationship. Call me a little ray of sunshine, but the first thing I would think of is “what if we broke up?”

It’s like a co-worker thing. It’s uncomfortable and all I’d want to do is be far away from that person (because I always want to be far away from people I don’t like.(anymore))

The thought of that would scare me too much…and now I would just think of it as yet another way to let people rubberneck on my life.

But maybe that’s just me.

If I got cancer or my husband left me (or god forbid, died) or had an accident I would not blog about that.

In fact, I think if anything like that happened to me, it would be bye-bye blogland. I think I’d lose the heart for it.

I’ve also FINALLY drawn a line where no one who doesn’t already know my peronal info will ever get it. There are some people who can’t keep their faces shut about personal issues and really, who wants those people to know real life information?

Oh and fwiw, I sorta stopped commenting as much on my favourite blogs…except Annie. Annie’s been with me forever. I am pulling back. I haven’t decided if that’s sad or smart but I just need to put distance in there.

It’s your own words…What? The people inside the computer are your friends? Um, if it sounds crazy, it is crazy. Seriously.

Oh and I knew you were divorced / divorcing before I ever spoke to you so you didn’t exactly hide that. Altho, depending on what you think of your ex, you’ve done a remarkable job at not bashing the shit out of him.

Hey, everybody, I got divorced!

How’s that?